Posts by Jane Ballback
The video you are about to see is about a 32-year-old man who was in a happy foster family, ready to be adopted, when he was, to use his words, “abducted” out of the family, and back into the foster system. His life went off the rails for many years, but he never forgot his foster mom or his brothers. Read More
This adoptive mother went on to tell me that she did not feel like she ever truly attached or bonded to her boys. At this time her boys were seven and eight years old, and she felt like they were not thriving as well as they should. When I asked her why, she said she felt like she never truly got over her grief about not birthing her own children. Read More
Some secrets are harmless and even inspirational, a secret desire to climb Mount Everest (even though you are not an athlete of any sort), or a secret goal that you are not ready to share with the world.
Some secrets however are burdens. They weigh heavy on our hearts, or stick in our throats as we even think about saying them out loud.
When I talk to people who are considering adopting I’m often asked, “is it possible to love another person’s child”? I’m always a little worried when someone asks the question in that way, but I do understand what they’re talking about, adoption is a mysterious process until you live it. I had an interesting experience with my daughter Stacee that does demonstrate how some adoptive parents simply stop thinking about how their children came into their lives, and how real they are as parents. Read More